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Sunday, March 27, 2016

Positive Posts about Exotic Dancers

cyberstripper

08-08-2009, 02:02 PM

I have read too many negative posts lately :( I hate to hear about my fellow SWers going thru hard times, so I wanted to start a positive post: what is your Stripper Success story?

Wether you are using stripping to get ahead or go to college, or have been a dancer and moved forward with your life to a "real career", I want to hear your success stories.

Heres Mine:

I moved to Vegas about 5 years ago with $200.00 in my pocket, a backpack full of clothes and not much else. I left everything behind, I know it was risky but I was tired of my life. I was staying at the WILD WILD WEST (a scary hotel to say the least) until I was able to rent a room.

I got into dancing and camming, and havent looked back since!! I now have a steadyish lol income, a beautiful condo and my two doggies! I feel like I have accomplished so much in the past 5 years. Everytime I drive past the wild wild west I always remember where I came from and how much progress I have made. Thinking about those times where I cried in my hotel room because I didn't know what to do, or where I would end up always keeps me motivated.

Christyismyalias

08-08-2009, 02:35 PM

Congratulations for you! It's a great feeling knowing you came from nothing and made yourself into something you love.

Mine is a work in progress.. I moved out of my parents house at 17 and started dancing as soon as I turned 18. Already hard into drugs when I started dancing, I went through years of bullshit and drug abuse, and it has taken me a few years to get it together and realize my potential.
At this point, I am saving serious money, working towards setting myself up for my future with hopes of retirement and opening a business. I am also in college, getting my degree and most importantly, am 100% sober.
I have realized the potential of this business and am working six days a week putting money away. I have also realized that I LOVE the business. I love entertaining people and I love being in control of my life.

For myself, I am thankful to have gotten into the business, because I have learned sooooo much. I wouldn't necessarily promote the business for others, b/c you do sort of get thrown through the ringer, but it has turned into a blessing for me.

ilovetobenaked

08-08-2009, 02:40 PM

When I turned 18 I too left home with absoluetly NOTHING. Nada. No clothes, nothing. I had a car and that's it. I borrowed money from a friend and bought myself one pair of dancing shoes and a bikini and I started dancing and slept in my car for the first week. I'd mostly sleep behind buildings or in parking lots and when the stores would open the workers would always tap on my window to wake me up!! LOL

I then got enough money to live week by week at the local Motel 6. I did that until I got enough money to rent my own apt! I had saved up ALL the money I needed, and then someone stole it, all. I was DEVASTATED, but, I worked harder and made it all back and got my place!!

That was 13 years ago and I never have stopped dancing but I did learn web design and now run a very succesful web design company AND dance. I love it! I have a 9y/o lil man and things are wonderful!

Great thread! :)

ilovetobenaked

08-08-2009, 03:17 PM

For myself, I am thankful to have gotten into the business, because I have learned sooooo much. I wouldn't necessarily promote the business for others, b/c you do sort of get thrown through the ringer, but it has turned into a blessing for me.
^^^^^^^^^
Ditto :)

Winged Dinghy

08-08-2009, 03:28 PM

I'm really impressed with you ladies who started supporting yourself by stripping at 18 and have become such smart, accomplished women. That's really something to be proud of.

I quit my graduate program because I knew I didn't want to teach writing--I wanted to be a writer. So I started stripping and started using my free time to write.

So, the money I made stripping is allowing me to shift gears into a career that is in alignment with my talents and my life purpose.

cyberstripper

08-08-2009, 04:18 PM

I can relate to all of you! I didn't post much about my past but I was independent from 16 and in and out of foster care, had all kinds of probs for a while. Keep the stories coming!!!

Kylea2

08-08-2009, 06:50 PM

I have a pretty long and confusing story, so if anyone wants to hear the full thing you can PM me. Basically I had nothing and couldn't afford anything even though I was working a full time office job. My money was going to bills that weren't even mine before it ever reached my pocket and then nothing was left. I started dancing, paid off everything amazingly fast and figured out I could go to college from the money dancing. By 22 or 23 I had a very nice life including a sports car, house, and college - all because of dancing. Plus, dancing has made me happier than I've ever been.

M3wlove

08-08-2009, 10:40 PM

i am so glad for this thread, its really inspiring..i am starting out right now when the economy is shot, but im very determined and hopeful.

librafox

08-08-2009, 10:42 PM

I love these posts! I truly enjoy dancing and am now at a point where I'm mature enough to see it through and maximize my money! My bf is giving me shit but I told him straight up if u can't respect me whether I'm dancing or notbi don't need you!

Gia2608

08-08-2009, 10:58 PM

I started dancing in RI when I was 20 but I knew I had to get the hell out! My older Sister and almost all of my friends back there have 2 or more children, rent apartments in shitty neighborhoods and have no education to fall back on, as well as the fact that they have jobs which offer little security (waitressing, secretary work, etc).

I enrolled in a college down here and bought myself a new car and put what I could fit in my trunk and left. I had a three bedroom apartment when I left and my mother was supposed to keep my things for me until I got settled but my furniture got divved up among friends and relatives and ALL of the clothes I had there (like thousands and thousands of dollars worth) got stolen by her neighbor's teenage daughter when they moved. Fuck it! It's just stuff.

To be honest I had a rough time down here for a while, I feel behind in school and had two shitty relationships back to back but right now I really need to get back to where I used to be mentally when dancing was freeing and empowering.

I did get back in school and just got my 1st degree Monday of last week! Now I am enrolled in University and evern though I plan on working full time I still want to dance at least one night a week so I can save up for the deposit on a home and start a retirement fund and also do some traveling!

But my success story: Getting out of my crappy small town and moving to a city where I knew no one and making it against all odds!

sorsi

08-09-2009, 12:40 AM

I moved to Vegas about 5 years ago with $200.00 in my pocket, a backpack full of clothes and not much else. I left everything behind, I know it was risky but I was tired of my life. I was staying at the WILD WILD WEST (a scary hotel to say the least) until I was able to rent a room.

I got into dancing and camming, and havent looked back since!! I now have a steadyish lol income, a beautiful condo and my two doggies! I feel like I have accomplished so much in the past 5 years. Everytime I drive past the wild wild west I always remember where I came from and how much progress I have made. Thinking about those times where I cried in my hotel room because I didn't know what to do, or where I would end up always keeps me motivated.

This is the most inspiring thing I've read on here in a long time. :) Good for you, and thank you for sharing!

Melonie

08-09-2009, 12:42 AM

My own 'success story' is a bit different. Before I started dancing, I was married ... gave birth to a son ... obtained a degree in Respiratory Therapy ... and was working in hospitals at a fairly 'good' rate of pay. However, after a divorce, I was left with custody of my son, a ton of debts, and zero financial help from my ex. It soon became clear that it would take me many years to 'dig out from under' those debts and still provide 100% of everything my son needed on my Respiratory Therapist's salary, even if I worked some double shifts and holidays. Then to top things off, it was discovered during a routine test that I had contracted TB from one of my hospital patients, which kicked off 6 months worth of treatments.

At the same time a new club opened up. I decided to take a shot at at being an exotic dancer, in hopes of earning enough money quickly to wipe out my divorce debts and actually being able to save money towards my son's future college education. I was pretty successful at this from the beginning. I then took advantage of a few opportunities to migrate to 'better' clubs, and subsequently expand ( pun intended ) into featuring, magazines, an adult website, etc.

After about 12 years, I managed to not only pay off my debts and buy a house, but also to save up enough money to fund my son's college education, and also to save / invest enough additional money to allow me to 'retire' from the exotic dancing / adult entertainment world.

Now that my son is away at college, I had the choice of continuing to live in my home state of NY and return to being a Respiratory Therapist ( or some other straight job) in order to pay all of the taxes due on my 'passive' investment income as well as the taxes due on a straight job paycheck, or to circumvent the taxes and live rather comfortably on my 'passive' income alone. I chose the latter, and am now on a 'permanent vacation' way south of the US border ... where up to $91k per year in 'passive' income is now free of US and NY taxes, and where the local cost of living is FAR less expensive than it was in NY. I will also add that my son loves to visit on semester breaks ( since I now live within relatively easy driving distance of Cancun LOL - 'hey, I thought you came down here to visit ME !' )

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papillonluvr

08-09-2009, 11:17 AM

Melonie, You are amazing!

As for me, dancing has helped me pay for college, pay off my car, put a down payment on a house, and start paying off credit card debt. Now I am teaching English as a Second Language at a middle school here in town. It is in an at-risk, 70% poverty ridden school, where over half the kids are either involved in gangs or have family invovled in gangs, or are illegal immigrant kids. This is what I have always wanted to do, so I am glad that dancing has gotten me here. :)

rareaspasia

08-09-2009, 11:45 AM

Guys, thank you so much for sharing. I'm leaving my dead end day job in two weeks and while this is definitely the right decision I am scared to death because it's such a big change. Thank you. I needed to read this because I know I'll have my own success story to share in two years!

cyberstripper

08-09-2009, 05:41 PM

NREXM

08-09-2009, 05:49 PM

I moved out of my parents house when I was 18 and a half and went to live with my boyfriend across the country in his small basement bedroom in a house that had five people already living there. I had about $200 and really couldn't afford anything. I looked for jobs but since I didn't have much experience, I didn't have much luck finding anything. I started dancing a few weeks after my 19th birthday and was able to save up enough money to support myself and pay my side of the rent. I saved for a year and was able to move into a three bedroom house with my boyfriend, get a new car, new home decor, insurance, and pay all my bills.

Right now I'm trying to save 50k to start a restaurant. I've meet a lot of interesting people dancing (dancers and customers) and they've definitely brightened my outlook on life.

Axiom

08-11-2009, 03:51 PM

Wow! This is a great thread! Thanks for all the inspiring stories... I was starting to feel discouraged.

chanzep

08-11-2009, 06:01 PM

I heart this thread too, stripping has helped me alot from almost homeless to happy and housed, and right now I have other goals in the process.

Nuclear Martini

08-11-2009, 11:12 PM

I am also a success story in progress.
I was kicked out of my highschool when I was 17 because the school found out that my legal guardian (my mother, who was a mentally unstable alcoholic and had extreme depression) had moved out of the state without me.

I was alone in my city, working 2 minumum wage jobs and was forced to drop out of highschool which has made the entire college process really hard for me. I would have panic attacks almost daily. I had considered many things for survival such as prostituting myself if I ever had to. I never did.
Fast foward to moving to Miami.

I was a 19 year-old bartender in South Beach (Miami). I worked at a really slow bbq restaraunt and bar and made about $400 a week, I worked 5 days a week and had to take a two hour bus ride to get to work everyday.

My mother had chose to cut herself off of all the meds she was perscribed to and was drinking heavily. She was mentally and physically abusive towards me. I was living with her at the time.

I dreamed of being in college like most of my high school friends were. While many of them were already messing up their college careers by partying and slacking off, all I wanted was a chance to be in college. I wanted to study medicine, maybe even oncology since I had lost many people to cancer. My mother knew about my goals and never assisted me, she never even told me she was proud.

One morning I woke up to the sight of my mom rummaging through my purse. My wallet was in one of her hands and I had already suspected her of stealing from me in the past. I would have loaned her money if she would ask, but we barely spoke to one another. In my half-asleep state, I mumbled "bitch" at her. I woke up to her hitting my head and scratching my eyes, it hurt so bad my eyes were burning. I cried all morning until I went to work. I felt so low that day. If I had any $ in the bank whatsoever, I would have left that day. I then vowed to myself that I would never, ever let myself be in this kind of situation again. Thats when I put two and two together and said "I'm gonna strip and never rely on anybody again" to myself. I went to work that day (bartending at a shitty place), quit two days later, and auditioned at the club I work at today.

Anyways, now I am 20 and I'm in community college, I want to be a dentist. Before I started dancing I wanted to study journalisim, but now that I work for myself I dont think I could work 9-5 office style ever!

I have a car, I live in Miami and take frequent trips to travel destinations in Florida. I now have a fulfilling social life and no one is beating the shit out of me! :D
I take a lot of road trips out-of-state, like to Savannah (one of my fav cities) and to New England (Where I grew up). My dream now is to get accepted into Tufts (or another equally elite Boston school) and one day own enough rental properties to live off of. I also have a pooch that I love to death and a loving man who treats me like a queen.

My self-esteem is through the roof because of dancing. I love myself :). Sometimes I even feel like I'm on the brink of something special (does that make sense? I don't know what that something is, but I definatly feel it).

i wouldnt reccomend dancing to everyone, but its totally changed my life for the better ;D

Oh yeah, awesome thread idea

britneyireland

08-12-2009, 06:56 AM

Here is mine (a literal cut and paste from my website, but honestly it took me several months to get it the way I liked it)

I was an elementary school teacher, until I couldn’t afford to eat. My paycheck just barely covered rent, car payment and insurance. I fell into dancing with the idea of “just until I finish graduate school and pay off Visa….” That was almost a decade ago. Since then, I have embraced the industry and all the opportunities that it offers smart, business-savvy women who are willing to stand up to the societal stereotypes.

During the dot.com craze, I was making great money and didn’t know what to do with it. The more I made, the more I spent, with most of it going towards rent in California. By 2002 I was drowning in consumer debt and filed for bankruptcy. I identified my mistakes, vowed to never make them again, and began my personal journey towards financial literacy.

In January 2004 I took the Naked Assets DancerWealth sales training class in Las Vegas. Although there have been several copy-cats, Naked Assets is the Original Stripper Sales Training School founded by Adam Sternberg that has been featured in Playboy Magazine, 20/20, and CityLife Magazine. Taking the DancerWealth course was the turning point of my dancing career. Afterwards, I began to experience massive success at closing lapdance and champagne room sales. DancerWealth also inspired me to begin my own journey into personal development. I started with the book Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.

Three years later I began blogging about how to be a successful stripper on Myspace. I even coined the term “SuperStripper” to describe the mindset and process of running a stripping business. The blog blossomed into a fabulous community of like-minded entertainers and those who aspired to become a SuperStripper.

In May of 2008, I assumed majority ownership of Naked Assets. In addition to the original DancerWealth course, I created the DancerWise and DancerVictory courses to coach entertainers towards SupperStripperdom. My personal goal is to continue dancing until I am Financially Free. This means that I have enough passive income from my investments to cover my living expenses. Becoming a SuperStripper has been a life changing experience for me. When I'm old and bleached blonde, I'll reflect on my stripper experience with fond memories and positive thoughts. Despite the social stigma of being "a stripper" I revel in proving them wrong!

Ivymaid

08-25-2009, 12:09 AM

Bump!

(I am bumping this thread because I am loving all the stories here and would love to hear more!)

missy873

08-29-2009, 09:14 AM

I've been really discouraged because of the economy and this thread has totally given me hope and focus! Thank you for starting this, cyber!
:)

firemaiden04

08-29-2009, 11:39 AM

I started stripping just for the hell of it, and to semi-support myself while waiting to go back to school. Personally, I don't really want to go back to college, for several different reasons. Especially having just watched my boyfriend finally graduate with his PhD, and the bullshit he had to deal with to get there was surreal, and none of it had to do with education or learning or knowledge. It was all a power struggle and politics. I don't have the patience for that.

My Mom has been pushing and pushing and pushing for me to go back to school, but I had a bit of an epiphany the other week. I decided that I didn't want to do it, and I wasn't going to.

Now that I know all the money I make isn't going into some savings account my Mom has for me (of which I have no information at all, no account number, nothing) which will be spent on tuition, all of the sudden my earnings have skyrocketed. I want to fix my credit, and get my own place again, and I want to have nice things in it, and I want to travel. So I've already planned a trip to London next month to meet up with my boyfriend, and I'm looking at apartments in the area.

I feel like now that I can do what I want with my money, all of the sudden I've become noticeably happier and more motivated. I've always wanted to travel extensively, and while I've managed a small bit of it until now, I've realized I can make enough money to go abroad if I want to. And I can have my own wonderful place to come back to whenever I want. I'm feeling more optimistic about it than I have in a long time.

griffinbikini

08-29-2009, 12:45 PM

I was already in school for music when i started dancing after a very bad car wreck and loss of hearing on one side i had to reevaluate my life .My best friend at the time took me to a club she worked at and a few nights later i was working there as well for several years.

This was the start of something bigger I began doing dancer costumes and opened a business what seemed like fun turned into something that ended up changing my whole life and way of thinking. 20 years later we still sell exotic dancer costumes, bikinis, and have another site we are working on for dancers /industry. This business opened up a whole new way of thinking for me and i would never change a thing.

Its still funny to me that people will go oh you used to be a dancer then give you that dopey look yes i was a dancer and i would do it again the best thing that i ever stumbled into.
I have had many friends in the industry that have been able to go to school, take great care of there children, open businesses that they would never have been able to do without dancing.I may be off the stage now but never out of the industry.

Best advice do what makes you happy and keep your money and your men separate

rusdancer

08-30-2009, 05:51 PM

What a great thread!A lot of touching stories.
This business was a tremendous help for me as well.I won't go into details,but if it wasn't for it,I probably would have not made it in this country,having been here very young and without family.

Wild Child

09-08-2009, 09:19 PM

Well, I chose to strip because the thought of it equally enticed and haunted me, as well as scarred and confused me. A combination which most always serves as my compass as to where to go/what to do next. My ENTIRE life (I'm talking since I'm 9) I've been angry at men. ANGRY. No clue why. Might be blocking something out there, not sure.

Anyways......for some ODD, anti-intuitive reason, the time I spent dancing CURED ME (of that anger anyhow). I felt (and still feel) that I, more than anything, just UNDERSTOOD men now. I could let their stares and comments on the street or at my "real" job slide without popin off.

Who knew?

Great thread.

Nuclear Martini

03-04-2011, 01:14 PM

I know this is an old thread, but I had to bump it. We have had a lot of new members since this thread has started and it would be nice to get more success stories on here

seashell

03-04-2011, 07:16 PM

This is a great thread! : )

I started dancing at 21 in my 3rd year of college. I had been working a low paying retail job and was still living at my parents' house because I couldn't afford my own place... it was horrible, they were always fighting and my dad and I didn't get along. Having two jobs was killing my grades in school, so I eventually decided, fuck it, I'm going to waitress at a strip club. They hired me, and two months later I started stripping and was able to afford my own apartment with roommates.

I bought all my own furniture, bought a new laptop and a desk for school, and graduated a semester early with awesome grades because my schedule was so much lighter than before.

Now I'm kicking those roommates out, and I have enough money to pay all my own bills and have my own place all to myself, for the first time. It's the best feeling ever. Dancing really puts you through the ringer, puts you face to face with your strengths and weaknesses. But it can give you so much freedom -- I feel like a lot of us here have gotten to places in our lives that it would have taken years and years to reach otherwise.

K Sweet

03-07-2011, 04:18 PM

I remember reading this thread before becoming a stripper. It's nice to see it active again, and this time I can contribute!

Before I was a stripper I was completely broke, continuously getting deeper into debt, barely being able to afford gas to put in my shitty car to get to work and pretty miserable when I was at work. There was no way I'd be able to pay for school, I didn't have anyone to rely on financially to help me if there was an emergency, and I was going nowhere in life.
I've worked my way up with stripping. I first started at a peepshow, which didn't pay great but it paid well (does that make sense?). I was able to use this money to buy myself a better car, which I now use for working bachelor parties. I've used that money to save up for an apartment close to where I plan on going to school and buy a laptop. I now also work at a club in the area I'm moving to, so I'm set up to go back to school and be financially taken care of! I've also made great friends, gained confidence, gotten really good at speaking my mind (this was a huge weakness for me), and my body has gotten much stronger too.

The very best thing though, is the assurance that even in tough times I will manage.

Kisa7513

03-10-2011, 01:08 AM

It is so great to see so many strong women who have used stripping to change their lives for the good instead of blaming it for their problems. Good job ladies!!

I started dancing back when I was 19. I actually come from a great family and we are all very close. My boyfriend in high school's mom was a stripper back when he was growing up and she just made it sound so fun I wanted to try it. I was taking 43 units in college and going year round to get it done. I came out to Vegas with some friends since my family had a home out here. Back in 1999 you could dance at clubs with alcohol under 21 you just needed a wrist band. I got hired at Cheetah's, danced for 3 nights and LOVED it so I started to come out every week or two to dance. As soon as I was done with school I told my parents that I wanted to put off my job and move out to Vegas to dance. Where I am from in Orange County that was very irregular but I have awesome parents and when I showed them the numbers and benefits they both agreed it was much smarter than the route I was originally going to go. I was also very lucky that because of dancing, I was able to spend a lot of time with my grandfather for the last 2 years of his life and after he did pass in 2001 I bought their Vegas home to keep it in the family.

Dancing has allowed me to have ZERO debt with the exception of my mortgage on my home in Vegas which is almost paid off at this point. I paid cash for all my vehicles, all my toys, my second home in So Cal. I was able to take 21 months off and travel, be involved in a couple of businesses that provide me great extra income, fully fund my retirement, and make some amazing friends along the way. I was also very lucky that from early on, my family was very good at teaching us to be financially responsible, so from day 1 of dancing I have always put at least the first 10% aside for myself. For most of my dancing career I have saved 25% off the top.

I don't dance very much anymore, in fact tomorrow will be my first day back in 3 months, but I miss it and my husband is out of town so now is the perfect time to call up my regulars and spend a couple nights shaking my thing.

Jay12

03-11-2011, 06:14 PM

I started dancing right after I got out of active duty to support myself in between drills and TDYs. At first I didn't made enough money because I wasn't that much into dancing (that's why I was so happy making less than 200 bucks), but I eventually managed to step into the game until I eventually made it work for me (where earnings in the high 300's and above became the norm). Now, I have a wonderful place to live, a car, insurance, and a wonderful man to share all those things. Now I'm mad if I only make 200 bucks.

That was only six months ago.

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Friday, March 25, 2016

My interracial beliefs on dating as a black woman

Because some Black women still believe that if they date out of their race they are being a sell out. Some still have this dream of the strong black man, and that you are supposed to stick by them. A lot are still loyal to this notion. A lot of our mothers are to blame as well, they try to get us to stick to this notion. I disagree, I was taught to date who treats you right. We are slowly starting to learn this though. It makes me so happy to see a Black woman in an interracial relationship, because that means another one has stepped outside of the box. Out of all the races in America, it seems to be taking Black women and Asian men the longest to do this. I think we should broaden our horizon and get with the program. I am open to all races... Personally I am too picky and have too many requirements and standards to add race to the list. I am willing to date men of every race, but sometimes I am guilty of looking at Black men first, but only because that is what I am familiar with.

First of all my belief is all black men are the most feared race in the world they are they're most threatening because they're the most appealing to every other female race culturally, sexually, spiritually, economically for the continuous growth of a strong future family gene pool. Breaking it all down proves it is purely mathematical equation. If you talk to 100 black women and get one decent one, and you talk with 100 white women and get twenty decent women, it just makes mathematical and economic sense to date the women with whom you would have spent the most amount of time and had the least financial burden. Many black women would yell out, that’s because white women are easy! We respectfully disagree, especially regarding Swedish white women in America; ask Tiger Woods about his ex-wife, Elin Nordegren. They are anything but easy and are as tough as black women, mainly because they have no idea they’re white. Being white is an American ideology and culture. So, let’s begin with the first equation; let’s do the simple math, 100 dates, 100 dinners, 100 checks, (plus interests and fees if using a credit card), 100 tips and no guarantees. You’ll be lucky to get a thank you, and at the end of it all may have one real prospect. What would you do? Who would you date? Many young American black women are broken, mentally, spiritually and financially. Do the math. If more black men dated outside of their race they would actually own more assets, houses, possibly stocks and be able to cover the basics like health and life insurance, (which would cut police brutality against the black man practically in half, because they would not be constantly spending their hard earn dollars on woman after woman trying to find a good one. Racism exists partly because most young black men do not have expensive life insurance policies if they have one at all. We all agree that when a black man finds a good American black woman there is nothing more beautiful, but look at the effort that it takes to find that one. It makes no economic sense.

Now, you take the same equation, flip it around and take 100 white women, the odds are that you will find 20 out of that 100. Many black women would disagree with this, because they are not dating themselves; they only see it from their perspective. Why is it that when you go to dinner with a black woman, 9 times out of 10 she will never leave a tip? Why does the white or Asian woman offer or leave a tip? They all have jobs. Why is it when you go to the club and buy a black woman a drink she will take the drink and walk off like you are nothing? Why is it that the white or Asian woman will buy you a drink? The drink the black woman walked off with was $10, which is a little more than the equivalent of an average man’s hourly wages, or 1/8 of his work day and 9 times out of 10 the black woman got in the club free. What would you do? Who would you date? Why is it that you have to be in a Mercedes, BMW or Bentley just for her to give you some attention? Why do you have to wear a Rolex, the best clothes, the best shoes in order for her to be nice to you? Have you ever looked across the table at a white woman and the man she is dating? He can be the bummest dresser, he may even be driving an old car, but she is sitting right there up under his arm. Black people did this in the 60’s and early 70’s, and we had more love and unity. But, today it is not good enough for the majority of American black women. Today you have to keep up with the Jones’s or you get no action.

A high desire for material possessions is not just limited to the black race, but it’s spirit dominates the American black woman. Every man, especially black men, know the key to getting into a black woman’s pants is through money and success. The basics are: nice car, nice clothes, and at bare minimum his own apartment. All of these are depreciating assets, but these are the prerequisites to obtaining the woman of his desire. The majority of black men focus on these goals, not because they want it for themselves, but because they have to have it in order to attract the American black woman. This is why less black men own homes, and look for the quickest route to the money. They desire to become rappers, athletes or drug dealers, all because they know money attracts a black woman, so they try to find the quickest way to obtain it so they can get the prize. The majority of black men in jail are there because they were trying to obtain the riches to please this very same woman and failed. They often took the path of least resistance to reach their goals, which ultimately equals less black men in college. In fact, every race knows money attracts an American black woman, including our large department stores such as Macy’s, Target, Marshalls, Nordstrom’s, etc, and the list goes on. Indeed, the entire American economy knows that black women in America spend the most money, period. This also relates to the American black population in general, including President Obama’s past campaign spending, being the first black president.

He indeed broke the campaign spending record. There are purposely more stores for women and the biggest of all consumers’ is the American black woman, followed by the American black man trying to please that woman.

The biggest of all consumers are women. It doesn’t just apply to black women but all races. But the biggest consumer of women is American black women. Therefore they have the most desire for money and the least practical means to generate it. Their desire for money matched with the fact that most black people do not have access to money has sucked true love and common sense right out of the black race. The “Spirit of Materialism”, dominates the woman who is the biggest spender and consumer of goods and services.

We’re not talking about every single American black woman as there are still some good black women in America (Proverbs 31), but between cable TV, BET, MTV, CNN, clubs and videos, most have been programmed not to love and support their black men. Black women desire the love they see on popular television shows such as “Friends”, without realizing their actions are contrary to the results they desire. The truth is a lot of black men end up with women from other races because these women were nice to them and accepted them for who they are and their current status in life. My name doesn’t have to be Snoop Dog for the White, Asian, or Hispanic woman to say hello and be nice to me. I didn’t have to be 7 ft tall with an NBA contract or be a rapper named Lil Wayne. If you took Lil Wayne and made him a regular, normal person without the name, he would get no play. American black women would tell him to get his teeth fixed, hair cut and tattoos removed, and they certainly would not take him home to their mommas. He would get no play. No offense to Lil Wayne, I’m proud of you bro. Keep doing what you are doing. Snoop dog is another. If his name was not Snoop Dog, with the success, fame and money, American black women would not give him the time of day if he asked, but would certainly get mad at the white woman for being nice and giving him the time. “It’s 5pm Snoopy Doggy.” Educated American black women from corporate America would certainly not give him any play. The only reason Snoop Dog gets play is, because Snoop Dog has money. It has nothing to do with whether he is a nice person or not. Sorry Snoop we love you dog, but we have to tell it like it is. His play would be minimum, if any, and it would be reduced, unfortunately, to the lower class hood rats of his former neighborhood, North Long Beach. It’s so easy to see that all the men with money, or who appear to have money attract all of the American black women. Then, black women in America wonder why there are no black men. It’s not that there are no black men, it’s just we are invisible to the American black women if we do not fit the height, roll and description that there mama told them to bring home, or the image they saw on TV. There are plenty of black men; it just so happens that the white, Asian, and Hispanic women find, recognize and appreciate us first.

If we are not driving a Mercedes, BMW, or Bently, and are only driving a Honda Civic, we are invisible and will not be noticed by the American black woman. Don’t be mad when the White girl, Asian girl, and Hispanic girl says,” Hey if you don’t have a ride, I will drive you”.

In fact, the only time an American black woman wants to look at a black man who does not fit the description is when he is with another race or on the 6 or 11 o’clock news for committing a crime. “Hey girl did you see what so and so did?” Any other time that man would be invisible. When a black woman in American acts like she is disgusted with a black man being with a woman from another race, what is she really saying to herself? She’s saying he must have something material, which is why the white, Asian, or Hispanic woman is with him. Therefore, he should not be with her. He should be with a black woman. They could care less whether he is happy or not.

Little does that American black woman know he is the same black man that said “Hi” to her 100 times. But, a simple, “Hello, how are you doing today,” was not good enough for her. Little does that black woman know, he only said “Hi” to her counter parts 10 times and out of the 10 times 2 of those women said “Hi” to him. Most black women think a white woman’s only claim to fame is that they give and survive off of great blow jobs. They fail to see their own errors, which are the simple facts that they were not nice or kind to their own brother.

If you look at TV and observe all the famous American black female movie stars, how often do you see this movie star dating a regular black man who works at Home Depot, or the Fire Department, for example. The biggest insult of all time is Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham, who has been dating an American black woman billionaire for over 20 years. All black women look up to and basically worship Oprah. Oprah insults black men and tears the very fabric of our family structure apart, perhaps unknowingly. She showed black women around the world on a daily basis that, although she raves about dream weddings and pays millions of dollars to showcase them, she never once showed other black women how important her black man was by marrying him. No contract. No marriage. He was always kept in the background. She is a prime example of the current mind state of how black women in American view black men. If you do not make a man feel important or needed, why would he want to come home and be with you?

Oprah’s example is contrary to what is taught in the black church and the majority of most church houses in the American community at large. Oprah is excused, accepted and looked up to because she has money. Most do not realize that Oprah is perhaps still recovering from her many awful childhood experiences. Don’t get us wrong, we love, respect, and thank Oprah for all of her contributions. She is one dynamic woman. Even so, we must still be honest about how we feel as men looking from the outside. A house and a family must have structure Someone has to be the boss and someone has to be the second in command. It’s no different than any American corporate structure. Marriage is a contract, marriage is a business. The serpent understood this very concept in Adam and Eve. So he approached the woman instead of the man who was the head, to deceive the man through his back door. Society has replaced that serpent in the garden, and has influenced American black women through jobs, promotions, and riches to not reach back and give a helping hand to their brother, protector, companion and lover, the black man. Women from other races desire money and riches as well, we all want nice things, but their desire is not as great as the majority of black women in America. They do not necessarily have to drive a Mercedes and own the best furs along with all the pressures of trying to keep up with the Joneses to feel good and validate themselves. Perhaps women from other races have found themselves lonely and looked over and saw that the black man was not being loved. It is better to have companionship even if it is with a dog than be in a cold world by yourself. How many times have you seen a white woman driving with a black man sitting on the passenger side? You can only conclude that this black man doesn’t have a car, but yet she is still driving him.

At the end of the day it is simple mathematics mixed with a little bit of kindness; do unto others as you would want them to do unto you. So many times have I witnessed black men treating the American black women, buying them drinks, flying them around the country; and I can count on one hand on average how many times I have seen an American black woman return the favor. The ones that return the favor easily position themselves to become the wives. When more black men understand what it is to make an investment, they will clearly be able to see that the time spent chasing the American black woman was not worth the effort. At the end of the day, when black men are too old to run and chase black women, they will realize they have been bamboozled. Once they realize this, they will no longer just date black women because it does not make economic or mathematical sense. They will look back on all the time, money and effort spent and realize they could have purchased a home, stocks, health and life insurance, and paid for a child’s college education. We are the biggest consumers, and to be a consumer means we are not investing in assets that appreciate. We only invest in assets that depreciate. Cars, clothes, cell phone bills, apartments, and eating out are all things that hold no future value. This is why intelligent black men, if they did the math will date outside their race.

All black men dating outside of their race are not necessarily smart and intelligent, but what they know on the most basic level is that this person likes them for who they are, whether they are rich or poor. This is beyond what most American black women are willing to do. If you do not have the “Bling-Bling”, the majority of American black women are not trying to speak to you. The only way attractive American black women will speak to you, if you don’t have any money, is if you are over 6 ft tall, look like a model, good hair, muscle bound, and have a certain skin complexion. If you are average in height and looks, these attributes are not good enough by themselves.

The men that fit this description sexually runs through American black woman like it isn’t funny. The proverbial faucet is always running, and they run through the majority of American black women like it’s nothing but a game. Usually the men that are having sex with them are friends of the guy that is totally invisible. We just sit back, observe and say, “Wow”. Being a nice human being simply isn’t good enough. What makes it so bad is that the corruption with the American black woman runs deep. It runs all the way back to the grandmother and sometimes even the great grandmother and beyond.

The end result is that all black women suffer for the actions of the now quadrupling amounts of black women want black men to stay focused on the prize, the black woman has to by force if necessary, smack, pull, prod and teach every single ignorant black woman, that is running like a fool, how to act in a respectful manner, just like we took responsibility for our community 40 and 50 years ago. If you saw someone that was doing something dumb, it didn’t matter, you took responsibility. Little does one know that the actions of a few have now become the culture of many American black women, has now multiplied exponentially, and is affecting the entire population of American black women. Birds of a feather flock together syndrome.

This is why other races of women are beating out American black women; it’s because there is too much ignorance, and it’s hurting all black women chances to find and keep the black man of their dreams. Do the math, the numbers will never lie. If black women did the math, I think they would be in agreement. I know it’s a hard core truth and many may not like it or agree, but sometimes you have to break it down to its very foundation just to rebuild it correctly. At the end of the day, black men would, of course, love to be with an American black woman who is down with him like our First lady, Michelle Obama, is for President Obama. But, please remember it was our President that used to drive a bucket, who one day became the President of the United States of America and Leader of the Free world.

Tale of a bachelorette party

I was at a bachelorette party with one of my friends and I asked her about the bachelor what was his plans and they had a giggle and a small smirk on their facing well definitely no strip clubs and I wondered why why can your soon-to-be husband go experience at times life was bachelor party at the club she said I don't want hookers all over him having sex with him and giving him oral sex I was baffled by it and appalled since they all knew I was also a stripper.

Just like the idea of a pole dance class your mind races into a sexual overhaul thinking about anything that could happen in the script club forget that it's also a social club. Legal adult entertainment that is all obligated to let you know exactly what goes on. First of all most clubs that are very strict and don't allow any of that So don't let television ruin your perspective of what's real. They run a clean little establishment that abides by state and federal law. Gentlemen clubs are not cd's berm endowed glitter bomb sex houses that they're actually beautiful social clubs great restaurants great Adult entertainment. I thought to get it to let you know exactly what goes on at a bachelor party particularly at the strip club. There the safest private parties as the ones you should actually worry about.

Unlike some seedy hotel party you have security

You get a bartender someone who could monitor and administer the alcohol intake at a responsible rate

You get a choice of select dancers who are entertainers not some out of work x dancer looking to score a few hundred bucks in the hotel with your potential husband.

So you don't have to worry about that questionable friend that always seems to peer pressure your husband into doing silly and outrageous things.

You'll know exactly how much money he spends if you pay attention to your credit card bill the receipt should note the club that he spent time with if he was to spend any money on a credit card or check your bank statement if he used the ATM it will usually have an initials or call letters as it's corporate name not necessarily Bambi's boob Rama on the credit card statement.

Before you freak out too much further let me explain to you what's going to happen he and his friends are going to walk in to a secured space with their checked for any weapons or outside influences that they cannot bring into the establishment they will be given a hand stamp was some sort of identity to identify them as a patron of the Establishment for the time and if they had a private Bachelor party set up it most likely was set up through the club in advance for them to have a special night planned out for them. A room monitored by security the dancers could come and show case their skills and enjoy the company of celebrating a milestone in this mans life. Most dancers have husbands boyfriends children other jobs school families sick parents or some form of responsibility that does not entail wanting falling in bed or stealing and engaged man from his future wife with promises of wild uninhibited sex that he's never going to experience with you. Dancers do not want the men they dance for groping all over them trying to insert money in their private parts slapping them grabbing at them for their attention licking and kissing on them during a dance. when it's time to identify him as the bachelor you'll go onstage and either be hugely humiliated or have the opportunity to show off a couple of his skills. Yes it will be a good time for him one he will remember and one most of his friends will forget. And why you ask? Because his friends are going to be in the mode of it's a party for my friend my good buddy I want him to have a great time meanwhile will be spending a lot more money on drinks and on private dances for themselves not for the bachelor and the women that have an opportunity to dance for the bachelor, Will most likely be girls pre-selected by the club as the best and that does not mean the easiest or the sluttiest, it's the one who can make the club the most money you must realize ladies this is a business and team work is highly necessary on the team that wants to host an amazing bachelor party for your husband to be. They do want his returned business.

About me

I'm Swedish Indian African Russian Italian and Asian I model and teach yoga pole fitness and cardio dance on weekends I perform as an exotic entertainer. I'm a mom and a student. I attend graduate school studying psychology and sports medicine. I enjoy the spa and the salon because it takes a lot of maintenance to look like this I like to travel I love shopping and I love outdoor adventures. I play tennis and golf and was captain of my swim team. I look great in anything or nothing at all. My zodiac sign is a cancer. My favorite holiday is Valentine's Day and I love horror films!

Hi guys and gals

Do you have a favorite adult entertainer you could count on to be there when you need a favor like a quick phone sext chat before bed, a discount for a private boys or girls night in party, a weekday casino date, a bartender or cocktail waitress at a boat party, your caddy chick or a wing woman when entertaining out of town guests? Then I'm your girl! I love my job! I'm not one of those sad incompetent strippers who don't know how to entertain! I've been in the adult entertainment field for a few years and have seen the good bad and ugly in this industry and I aim to bring back the art of this beautiful underrated legal career choice! Let's be friends, muse, benefactors, fans or family, Your choice

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Mardi Gras madness

So I decide to take 6 months to do an intensive underground study of the Mardi Gras in Springfield Massachusetts. The very first day was like every other first day at a strip club. The phone call to audition was intimidating because I take it the girls who usually call to audition have very little verbal skills, I brought a friend that also auditioned under the impression they needed girls to work. The hiring manager i met with was a woman and I hoped I could impress her easily. I met the manager on a Tuesday afternoon in the middle of a moderately slow day, yet the chaotic organisation was very apparent. After receiving what seemed like a rush tour of the club she offered me a space to change and a stage set to test my skills. I performed for the 3 minute set when she interrupted me and offered me a schedule. I went upstairs to the dressing room and began meeting the other girls. The girls who have the most questions are the less intimidating. They are always looking for someone to relate to. The girls who are not interested are the girls who make the most money doing the extras. I cant trust them because they try to get you to be like them immediately. I seen a couple of familiar faces from my previous club and the girls were saddened and frail.I felt compelled to spark up conversation about the new club but they both seemed not so comfortable bringing up rules. I wasn't scared because I've been down this road before and fact of been down this road many times to know exactly what to expect however I was a little nervous because I had a high expectation of this being like the experience I had in Atlanta in 1999. This time I was prepared I had skills a wide varied amount of a set of skills I can bring to the table including but not limited to my ability to converse engage sell and upsell customers while maintaining a decent sense of being in non-compromising state. We were younger were much more impressionable about where we want to be in the things we want and how we choose to get there usually never leading many thoughts to the future while taking present actions that can be detrimental and I walked in asking to speak to the manager who I previously spoke to over the phone she assured me my interview and orientation would be short and sweet I did not know she would need me to work immediately nor would she be refusing a potential employee. After she hired me it was a very weird orientation that I was given because I didn't realize even had a champagne until the fourth day I worked there I noticed that there was a dramatic change in how they treat at the girls depending on the race and I don't mean to be the one to bring up race because it's an issue a feast myself my whole life I'd rather think of the positives of us being United as one unfortunately that's not how a lot of people think I wanted to negate the idea of what an African-American woman once and for the fact that I was educated worldly poised articulate business minded incredibly sexy and amazing dancer it made a wonderful rendition for with the club needed! I began by making the schedule for three days a week and eventually four days.